I woke up this morning with a clear thought. Lately my thoughts have been muddled. What's going on in my heart and brain? Why are relationships so complicated? We sense a feeling in our hearts but we cannot find a simple explanation. But today I had one clear thought.
I wonder if when we, as children, grow up being "forced" to love adults who give us less than their full selves, we turn into adults who accept partners who also give less. Or those who don't know how to give their full selves. We create families and partnerships that are not whole. That may be built on half people--people longing to be whole but who have never learned how. They tell a story that they don't really deserve whole love or to express their full selves. These people may say they don't need all that whole-ness. But everything inside them has been needing and crying for it their whole lives. They've just accepted it.
God wants us to be whole. God wants us to discover and give our full selves.
Then Richard Rohr sent me this thought for the day:
A heart transformed by this realization of oneness knows that only love "in here," in me, can spot and enjoy love "out there." Fear, constriction, and resentment are seen by spiritual teachers to be an inherent blindness that must be overcome. Those emotions cannot get you anywhere, certainly not anywhere good. Thus all mystics are positive people--or they are not mystics! Their spiritual warfare is precisely the work of recognizing and then handing over all of their inner negativity and fear to God."