The money's nice....don't spend it all on therapy

Medical training could parallel things like fraternity hazing, a Jim Jones-esque cult, or, in some cases, Jihad training camp.

At whatever extreme level the training was, there will need to be some "de-programming."

Word of advice: don't try this alone, you will not succeed.

Dr. Arm and I have lucked out. We stumbled upon a counselor. This guy is The Guy that the Medical Board sends people to for anger management. There is little that shocks This Guy.

At first you may think you are simply paying someone to say the things you have been saying for your entire marriage the last few years. Such things as:

• "a day off here and there would be very beneficial" 

• "quality time with your kids could mean a 10 minute game of catch"

• "the things your wife does are pretty amazing"

• "life can be more than just work and complaining about it"

And you may pay for about 4 months of therapy before anything sinks in at all. But the day it does, you'll be happy to write a check for double the amount you've already paid.

I recommend trying to plan therapy sessions around your peak level of PMS. The issues will never seem as crystal clear as the 3-4 days before your period.

I recommend stifling any "I told you so" or "Hellloooooooo! That's what I've been telling you this whole time, Dumbass" statements. Save those for your girlfriend therapy sessions.

I also recommend a few therapy sessions where you just shut up. Stop talking. Listen. Your Doctor is not the only one who needs some de-programming. Your Doctor may actually say things that are honest and true that you hear for the very first time. He's probably said them before but they were drowned out by Facebook, the phone, or whining (yours, your kids, silent or aloud).

So when Your Doctor starts making The Big Bucks, set aside a little chunk for the therapist. Keep it as a budget line item until the merge with normal life seems more normal. Until you are convinced that the brainwashing has been de-programmed.